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John was unhappy when he heard his wife was pregnant. He didn’t want the child because he thought it would ruin his untroubled life. He didn’t have time for a child, he’d miss having fun with his friends, and he couldn’t stand the idea of changing diapers. Money wasn’t the problem. John thought his life would be somehow ruined by this unwelcome intrusion.

His father treated him like that that’s why John felt this way, and because all his friends (who didn’t have kids themselves) had convinced him that once he had a kid, his life was basically over. He’d be sitting at home, with a crying kid, changing diapers all day.

John’s wife asked his good friend, Scott, to have a talk with him and show him the other side of fatherhood, the good, fun and amazing parts his friends would never tell him. It worked wonders. It completely turned John around, and now he’s the father of two boys, and is the most devoted, doting, and totally involved dad you’d ever want to meet.

Pleased at how well it worked, Scott Kelby, already a writer and author, decided to share the information in a little book called, The Book for Guys Who Don’t Want Kids: How To Get Past The Fear Of Fatherhood. “I wrote this book because there are lot of guys like John who feel a child will ruin their life,” Kelby says. “Often, an unexpected pregnancy causes men to leave their girlfriends, wives or even their fiancés.”

Kelby, in the book, turns fatherhood into a more agreeable prospect by focusing on what guys get from being fathers rather than what they think they’ll give up. Kelby, an ordinary guy in a happy marriage said he absolutely didn’t want to have kids. But when he had his own son, everything changed.

Kelby shares both his personal experiences as a father, and those of his friend, John, who ended up being one of the most engaged dads you’d ever want to meet in order to help change some minds about fatherhood. Kelby helps potential fathers through the process of accepting and eventually welcoming the baby and uncovers the joys of being a dad.

Kelby wrote the book in a fun, lighthearted manner and intentionally made the book short, so it would be a quick read for guys who often don’t have much time to read anything but the sports pages. It’s a welcome introduction to the world of fatherhood.